A client of mine recently shared with me that the advice she received from her therapist significantly colored her thoughts about a guy that she had just started dating. After her therapist cautioned her to be careful with this guy because men in his profession typically were liars and cheaters, her thoughts about and her behavior towards this new relationship were colored by this filter… ultimately resulting in a premature end to this budding relationship.
While in all honesty the caution/advice she received was probably meant to help her, it also put certain thoughts about the situation into her head. It is actually at her request that I’m writing this post today.
This general tendency to not trust yourself and your own ability to truly know what you need, who you should associate with, and how you should live your life can be at the root of a lot of stress. We have much untapped wisdom within ourselves, we just live in a “noisy” society where we receive lots of external input and forget to listen to the inner wisdom.
How many times have we been told by someone in our lives to “Be careful with people who are X” or that “Y is a sure sign that a person/situation is no good”?
While often these cautions are meant from a place of caring and trying to protect the other person, they also create blinders and filters in our minds and to some degree make us less likely to trust our own knowledge, wisdom, and inner knowing, which I don’t see as truly empowering to us. While other people may have their own wisdom, knowledge, and experience, telling other people how to live their lives and make choices based on that is often not helpful.
So how can you work with trusting your own intuition and inner knowing instead? I’d like to share 3 simple strategies for cultivating your connection to your own inner wisdom.
Earlier this year, I wrote a post sharing how BodyTalk and working through old “stuff” was instrumental in me finally finding love. Today, I’m excited to write an update to that post!
It was with great joy that my love and I announced our engagement to our families this past weekend!
After having dreamed of finding deep and meaningful love for years, longing to find a partner that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and yet stressing out and fearing that it would never happen, it finally has and I am so filled with joy and happiness!
If you read my last post, you will remember that I was single for many, many years and had also spent a lot of time and energy dating without much success. The process was stressful, frustrating, and exhausting…
When BodyTalk entered my life last year, I began to consider that it could be a tremendous help to my journey to love after hearing so many successful stories of how other women were finding their loves after working with the practitioner I was receiving sessions from. I felt that I really had nothing to lose by giving it at try and for me, it worked very quickly and effectively to prepare me for love.
After meeting my guy in March of this year, I have continued to receive BodyTalk sessions to help support me in moving more and more deeply and fully into this relationship and our connection. When stress about our future and moving in together at the end of the summer surfaced, I had sessions to help me process and release what was at the root of the stress. When discussions of marriage triggered fears, again, I received more sessions to help support me. I’ve even been getting sessions to help my cat adjust to my fiance living with us… as she has had some behavioral challenges that have caused all 3 of us stress!
BodyTalk has truly helped make the transition from being single for many years to living with my now fiance a lot smoother and more relaxed than I believed it could be.
Because BodyTalk has been so powerful in my journey to love, I have become very passionate about helping other women use BodyTalk as a resource to making their love lives less stressful and more fulfilling, loving, and rewarding! I’ve created several new offerings focused on just this topic!
I’ve started offering monthly “Fizzle to Sizzle” group sessions to support women who are either currently in relationship and are feeling like they could use some support or fine tuning or those who are dating and are experiencing stress and frustration with that process.
In addition, I’m also now offering Relationship Dynamic Balancing Sessions for those currently in partnership that could use some support and Romance Matrix Sessions for ladies looking to bring more romance into their lives….
I look forward to supporting my fellow love goddesses on their journeys!
Let me start out this post with a confession… writing this post feels vulnerable. A year ago, I would have NEVER written a post like this and shared it on my website.
It is only through the deep healing work and growth that I have experienced through BodyTalk that you are now seeing this post! Also, gratitude goes to Brene Brown for her powerful books on vulnerability that have helped inspire me to be more vulnerable!
I have been single for quite a few years… not because I haven’t wanted a relationship but for many reasons… Owning my own business takes a lot of energy and attention. I’m also an introvert and so going out and finding someone at times can be challenging. At times, I have also been focused on my own healing process and not on finding a partner to share my life with.
Last year, as BodyTalk entered my life, I also began to focus more on finding a romantic partner. I have gone to speed dating events, posted my profile on dating sites, and even connected with some matchmakers in town. While I went on dates last year, nothing really significant seemed to be happening.
This January I started a 4 week healing series for women with one of my favorite BodyTalk practitioners. I began to realize how there were many unhealed layers around love and relationship that were blocking me from finding someone to share my life with. I would immediately begin to close down in certain situations and, energetically, I believe the guy I was going on a date with could feel that shutting down. Through this healing series, I began to shed many old layers and beliefs about love, relationship, fears of being hurt, and began to become more comfortable in my own skin. I am more comfortable in my body and with who I am. I am also more connected to my feminine core self.